Going on a no-buy

We are close to one year to go (which confuses me greatly because work-wise the past 2 months have been LONG but wedding-wise where did the 2 months go??) and that means that I have to actually save up and not go around throwing my money at things. My parents have generously offered to pay for the food on my side since the bulk of the guests are theirs… like I will not know 1/2 of them but they will know me and they will all say “oh dah besar! Dulu kecik aje duduk atas pangku mak dia. Kuat nangis pulak tu!” and my crybaby tendencies will be exposed – now that I think about it he hasn’t seen me cry watching a Bollywood movie time to change that – but I still got to pay for some things.

I have been toying around with the idea of having a videographer for the nikah. Previously I felt it was an added expense that wasn’t necessary; if ada bagus, takde takpe. He felt that a wedding video was kind of wasteful because it was just to show off your wedding to people. More likely that you will look at your wedding photos instead of going through your wedding video in the years to come. When he put it that way I had to agree. I don’t think I will watch my wedding video after the 2nd anniversary and it would be a waste. We could be spending the money on something else.

But then I was watching videos of nikahs to see which kadi I might prefer (and err which one to avoid? Not into chatty kadis as much as they mean well) and I thought, “Actually it would be kind of nice to have a video of the nikah.” A video of me becoming someone’s wife while ugly crying with mascara everywhere and my husband trying to salvage my makeup while laughing at me. The editor will probably make it look romantic. We might actually look presentable.

That’s the first reason why I decided to stop throwing money at things. The 2nd reason is because I will be going to Europe with my friends in April and I know I will spend on so. many. things. My last stop is London. So dangerous for my bank account. I will definitely end up in Primark and Boots. RIP my money.

With those two big looming things in mind, I have been reading the Makeup Rehab thread on Reddit (so helpful!) and I have decided to go on a no-buy for March and the first half of April. For this round, a no-buy means I will not be purchasing any makeup, clothes, shoes or bags. I can feel the struggle already.

I will allow myself to make these planned purchases:

  1. Sports shoes/hiking shoes for Europe (my sneakers are DEAD I need to throw them out)
  2. Heattech top, if the weather is still cold by mid-April
  3. Sunblock

I’ve gone through my skincare and makeup; there is nothing that I need to get anytime soon. Everything has backups except concealer but there is no way I can finish my concealer in 2 months unless I use it all over my body everyday.

Shoes and clothes are a lot more tempting but I just got three new flats and a cute cardigan so unless I find the perfect pair of nude heels in March I will practice extreme restraint.

Okay time to use that band discipline that I’ve thrown aside for years


I enjoy long walks in nature reserves

So in the past 3 weeks plus that I haven’t been posting, the following has happened:

  1. I got 2 pesky wisdom teeth out. Had to do a surgery for the bottom one and I forked out the serious cash to get a specialist dentist and get full on knocked out because I didn’t to be traumatized. It was such a good decision I’m so proud of myself. Yes, I am $2k poorer but I remember nothing because I was completely asleep throughout the surgery. I remember looking at the tv screen on the ceiling trying not to freak out and the next thing I knew the dental assistant was shaking me awake and I had a mouth full of gauze. Honestly truly please ask me if you are considering doing the same thing I cannot recommend this clinic enough.
  2. The mat drove up to Thailand with a group of friends who all have the same motor the week when I was having the surgery. He now has a bunch of photos of a row of motors that are all the same.
  3. Since we are on the topic of motor I would like to say I am MAD PISSED AT WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO MOTOR ARF. I have many things to say but I am v frustrated and I feel like everything is gg to come out wrong u feel
  4. Ok back to actual life. I’ve been trying to get the mat to walk more since I found out that he actually doesn’t walk anywhere (if not on motor then in car. if not in car then on buggy. if not on buggy then on motor) and so far I have been fairly successful. Since he loves nature so much I have sacrificed my (shoe) soles to walk rocky trails in forests. One day we walked from the shophouses near I12 Katong to Parkway Parade. Which you might think is near but not when your fiancee says “Let’s cut through Roxy Square there’s a shortcut” but no there is no shortcut you took the long route in and out of a shopping mall. But I won’t scold him I’ve lost 2 kg so far wheeee
  5. The mat and I went full on shopping for the first time and I gotta say practical shopping is so boring no wonder men don’t like shopping if I had to shop like how he shops I’d be bored too.
  6. I have heard all sorts of doubts about my vendor choice which has been annoying as hell and makes me want to just cancel the big wedding and go makan chilli crab with, you know, people that I actually like to spend time with.

Work has been quite tough on both of us this past month, but we have been going out more often. Probably because he’s no longer driving and doesn’t have to worry about covering rental. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed the comforts of the car. I loved how I was still comfy and dry when there was a thunderstorm, that I could finally wear all my pretty dresses and skirts when I went dating, that I could actually wear earrings when I met him. But I did not enjoy meeting him so little and even then he was distracted because he hadn’t covered the rental. I’ll take the motorbike and flattened hair any day to see him so much more relaxed. Like you know how people say when the person you love is stressed then you also become stressed, but when they are happy you are also happy? Ya this is me being a sentimental sap.

And now that I’m typing all of this I realise that we still haven’t done any research about pre-wedding course aaaahahaha we are terrible we are both going for long holidays (separately ofc haram uolls pergi sama2) and we got all of that planned but not this. All we’ve talked about is how we both agree to not take any express courses (personal preference, not that express courses are bad) and that we should probably take it before December because we know ourselves, we might just go holiday again.

Wedding dress inspiration – Ralph and Russo Couture Spring 2017

Initially I thought of just throwing all the outfits from the Spring 2017 couture collections in one post but the Elie Saab one was too long already. So here are the other two designers that caught my eye: Ralph and Russo and Georges Hobeika

Ralph & Russo images from Vogue, Georges Hobeika images from Georges Hobeika


That gold detailing on an abaya tho… ok since I’m not wearing an abaya – that detailing on a kebaya, or a baju kurung *cries*


Add sleeves to this and I can see myself wearing it. Although I might have to wear a corset right?




Obviously I cannot wear this but THE COLOUR ARGH THE DRAPING AAARGHH


If this one had 2 sleeves I would go look for it right now. It would be a glorified baju butterfly and I’d be comfy and my mother would be so done (she is probably the most anti-baju butterfly person I’ve ever met in my life; she’s like omg what if ur husband can’t stand baju butterfly but I got the baju butterfly green light from the mat early in our relationship aha)


The detailing is so exquisite?? I am not a big fan of lavender on myself but this is stunning


Blue and gold again!! And flappy sleeves! It’s like these designers know my hopes and dreams and make these gowns that I will never wear.


If I wanted to win “most extra wedding outfit” amongst my cousins this would be it.