Empties – Q2 2017

I actually started drafting this post on the first week of Raya when I finally got an off day, but I didn’t manage to finish this and I’ve been either playing catch up at work or going visiting every night (until today I’m still trying to understand why I had so many houses to visit??) so here I am, in mid-July, talking about all the things that I’ve finished up throughout the past 3 months. (Longgg post ahead)

I do these posts because I want to know what works for me and what doesn’t so that I can make better shopping decisions in the future. Seeing how much I use up also shows me how long it takes for me to finish something and hopefully prevents me from buying backups or stocking up on a type of product because “I might run out of it” (I am super guilty for doing this with lotions)

From this post onwards I’m also going to be including the price of these items so that when I look at this post at the end of the year I can look at how much I had spent on all the things that sucked and remind myself to stop impulse buying when I’m at Watsons/Guardian. You may think oh it’s just Watsons it’s not Sephora or MAC but no… when you think “oh this is cheap” you buy a lot of other things because they’re all “cheap” and when the cashier says “So that’s $87.50” you’re like where did my money go????

If you’re reading this on the lookout for something to try, keep in mind that I have:

  1. combination skin (oily T-zone, sometimes dry af cheeks),
  2. pores that are constantly clogged, and
  3. possibly sensitive skin, because a lot of products break me out and they’re the painful kind of breakouts not just closed comedones

This month I’ve used up S$165.89 worth of products and decluttering S$41.14 worth of products. This amount is based on what I paid for these items, i.e. samples and gifts are S$0.00 and the cost of items from beauty boxes/sets are calculated as “price of box / no. of items” instead of price per ml.

MAKEUP

This quarter I didn’t finish any makeup items which clearly shows how slowly I use up makeup even though I wear makeup at least 5 times a week. I’m not really surprised since I finished two big ticket items in the previous quarter (a lipstick and a foundation) and nothing else was close to being finished back in March. I am, however, getting rid of three lip products as they have all gone bad.

Colourpop Satin Lip in Echo Park (S$8.57) was a little drying for my lips but nothing too terrible. The smell was chemical-y from the get go but one day I opened it up and it smelt bad. I haven’t even had it for a year.

Colourpop Ultra Matte Lip in Perky (S$8.57) was horrendous. It was so drying that I couldn’t even wear it for more than 20 mintues because I felt like I was going to damage my lips if I wore it for a full day. I tried combining it with less drying liquid lipsticks but it still felt uncomfortable. I noticed one day that it actually started to separate and when I opened it the smell was super nasty. I bought this and Echo Park back in November, which means these fellas only have a life span of about 4 months in this climate. Ridiculous. Never repurchasing Colourpop liquid lipsticks.

One of my Clinique Chubby Sticks in Mega Melon (S$24) had gone bad – I brought it to Europe with me and it didn’t do its job at all. It got flaky and smelt pretty waxy and I decided it was time to let it go. This has taught me to not buy backups of something that I love unless I’m really low on the one I’m currently using. Serious heart pain having to toss this.

CLEANSING

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H&M Gently Does It Cleansing Wipes (S$4.90) | These were so good. Saturated up till the last piece, which rarely happens for wipes in this kind of packaging. It’s so much cheaper than the Simple wipes and it removes my makeup just as well. I’m currently trying to wean off wipes but if I need some in the future I’d buy these again.

Swisse Micellar Water (S$8.15) | I was drawn to this because it had a short ingredients list and I couldn’t get it in Singapore (I got this in Australia). There is a cucumber smell since it has cucumber extract, but after a while I got used to it. This removed my makeup as good as the Bioderma and Garnier one. If I could find it here at this price I would repurchase.

Guardian Cotton Wool Pads (S$1.53) | They get the job done. I have 2.5 packets to go, not purchasing any cotton wool anytime soon.

SKINCARE – FACE

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Chanel Hydra Beauty Micro Serum (Sample) | This saved my skin in Europe. My skin is infamous for suddenly becoming drier than a damn desert in Europe even in early summer let alone this year’s absurdly cold spring. This serum isn’t too thick so my skin absorbs it quickly and I can do two thin layers if I really need to. Back home this keeps my skin nice and hydrated even when I use a tiny amount. This shit is not cheap though – on the Chanel website the full size is USD$110!! – so I’ll just stick to these travel sized samples I sometimes get.

Chanel Hydra Beauty Gel Creme (Sample) | This reminds me more of a more cream than a gel, and it’s one of the few cream moisturizers that doesn’t break me out. It’s a little thick so if you have these samples you should cut the tube in half because there is so much product in the corners that you can’t squeeze out. I think after I cut the tube I used it for at least another week. In a cold and dry climate it works very well but in this humid country I don’t think it’s really worth buying since other cheaper moisturizers I’ve tried work well too.

Innisfree The green tea seed cream (Sample) | I got this as part of a welcome pack together with a serum, an eye cream and a sheet mask. I think I got maybe 3 uses out of this. It broke me out pretty badly, the kind of pimples that were super inflamed and they hurt. Would not purchase.

Innisfree The green tea seed serum (Sample) | I don’t remember anything about this serum except that it also broke me out. Would not purchase.

Chanel Sublimage La Creme Yeux (Sample) | The eye cream that makes my panda eyes bearable. This claims to plump the skin and reduce appearance of dark circles and I agree it fulfills those claims. I don’t know why the full size is in a tub because this packaging is so much more sanitary and practical. A little really goes a long way – I use literally a pinhead of product. Going to be sad when my samples run out because I don’t want to buy the full size, I’m afraid it will expire before I’m done.

Innisfree Bija Cica Balm (Sample) | This is a very recent addition, I got this on Tuesday in a trial kit that Innisfree was giving out. I’ve been curious about the claims of this product so obviously I ran to the nearest store when I found out they were giving the kits out to members. This is supposed to be for 1 use but unless you are using it all over your body or you have a really, really big face there is way more product in here. I used it 6 times, so there’s no way that I’m using it incorrectly – my face would have been a mess if I slathered all of this on for 1 use. So far so good, but I’m going to continue using the other 3 samples before I decide if I should buy the full size or not.

Shiseido Ultimune Power Infusing Concentrate (Sample) | I have two more samples of this so I’m going to continue to test this out because I’m not too sure what this actually did for me. The consistency is thicker than the other serums and it doesn’t really feel like it’s being absorbed into my skin. Maybe I’m using too much? Will update when I’m done with the other 2 samples.

MASKS

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LipHop K Mask Vita C Skin / LipHop K Mask Vita F Skin / LipHop Black Cheers Rice Nourishing Facial Mask (S$1.93 each) | Got these when Guardian was having the 3 for 2 promo. They were ok, nothing special. My skin felt hydrated afterwards but the next day it was back to normal. Would not repurchase any of these.

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My Beauty Diary Platinum & Pearl Brightening Mask (Gift) | This had two pieces, one for the top half of my face and one for the bottom half and part of my neck. It had earholes so that the mask didn’t fall off, and my chin area looked a little firmer when I took it off. Of course, that result was temporary. The interesting thing was that it didn’t do much for my face but it made my neck look much brighter! I’m torn about this because I had a few huge pimples on my face soon after I tried this (no surprises there), but my neck looked great for like a week or so. If there’s something just for the neck I would be super down to try it.

Royal Skin The Animalian Mask Fox (S$3.92) / SNP Beijing Opera Aqua Mask (S$3.90)| I tried these for the novelty. The SNP one had so much essence I could spread it all over my body twice, but not sure what good it did. Both were fun masks but I wouldn’t purchase them again because I didn’t see any changes to my skin.

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HEMA Self Heating Face Mask (S$2.61) | I bought this in Amsterdam out of curiosity because I had never heard of a self-heating face mask before. It is the strangest thing. It’s supposed to be a clay mask but it has a very smooth texture and isn’t very thick. The instructions say that I have to apply it to a wet face so the mask gets more watery and doesn’t dry down like how other clay masks do. The self-heating thing is also weird. The mask heats up when it reacts with water, so after you apply it on your face the sensation fades after a few seconds, but when you wash it off parts that you touch get warm again. I guess it would feel nice in colder weather, but there’s no reason for any heating mask here. Skincare wise, it did nothing for my skin unlike other clay masks. Would not repurchase.

Nature’s Bliss Hydrating Gel Face Mask in Lychee & Pomegranate (S$1.48) | This had a very unique consistency. Appearance-wise it reminded me of kelapa parut with santan. The smell of lychee was nice, even though sometimes it felt a little overpowering. This is definitely not a 1 use sachet though, so ignore the instructions to use up the entire packet for 1 use. I kind of regret doing that, because it wasted so much product. This mask is supposed to slowly be absorbed into your skin, so the mask slowly disappears, but when you apply too thick a layer your skin might not be able to absorb all the product. I have another one in a different scent that I’ll try using multiple times. If they were sold here I might repurchase.

Forgot to take a photo Innisfree It’s Real Squeeze Mask Green Tea (Sample) | I think the green tea line just doesn’t work for me. Got some serious pimples, would not purchase.

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Simply Bye Eye Bag Hydro Gel Eye Masks (S$2) | These were probably trying to imitate the high-end gel eye masks but my goodness this was terrible. Felt incredibly heavy, were very uncomfortable (to the point that I woke up to peel them off and fell back to sleep immediately), and the next day I saw more wrinkles under my eyes instead of less. Dark circles still prominent, no difference. Such a waste of $2. I didn’t bother using the 2nd set because I don’t want to screw up my undereye area again.

BODY

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Bath & Body Works Cup of Warmth Lotion (S$6.63) | I bought this in Malaysia when it was on sale for RM$19.90 (usual price 65??? Or some kind of absurd price) because it reminded me of the old school Body Shop Almond milk lotion. It’s not the exact scent but close enough to make me feel nostalgic. I got a little sick of the smell towards the end of the bottle, but people that stood close enough seemed to like it (the mat thought I smelt like chocolate). As a lotion it did great. My legendary dry patches were tamed and my skin was always soft. I was quite surprised it did so well, I expected it to perform kinda meh like the VS lotions. If there was a scent that wasn’t this strong, I might repurchase another B&BW lotion in the future.

Bliss High Intensity Hand Cream (S$5) | Claims to be high intensity, but my fingertips felt dry after I use this too often. Go figure. Bliss products aren’t cheap either, I got it at $5 cause it was on sale. The smell is nice, but not worth repurchasing.

Healthy Care All Natural Paw Paw Balm (S$8.47) | What on earth is this product?? Who approved this?? It was tough to work with – it was a little too thick to squeeze out of the tube properly, it didn’t spread very well on my skin which meant that I had to use a lot of product on one area, but then it just sat on top of my skin and didn’t even moisturize my dry patches. Because of how oily the balm was, the tube became pretty oily since I was switching hands trying to squeeze the product out. The packaging also says that the balm is harder or softer depending on the climate, which makes me go ‘wtf’ because I live in a tropical climate so if the balm is so tough to work with in this heat, how insanely difficult will it be like to use this in the winter? Can you even squeeze it out of the tube then? Overall a huge miss and I’m super disappointed since I thought it would be a more natural alternative to my other lotions.

Balance Me Super Toning Body Polish (S$4.62) | Claims to be like a spa treatment and the smell is certainly very ‘atas spa product’. However I feel like I had to use a lot to feel like it was actually scrubbing something, and since it’s not cheap I won’t buy the full size.

Soap & Glory Smoothie Star Body Buttercream (S$7) | This was a great lightweight lotion. The smell isn’t really for me, but it did the job. Would not repurchase because of the smell.

HAIR

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Liese Blaune Creamy Foam Colour (S$17.90) | This is my go-to when my white hairs get out of control. It’s so much easier to use than the cream hair dyes. The pack comes with two bottles, you mix the liquids in both bottles together, screw the pump cap on and you’re good to go. The hair treatment included is also insanely good, my hair is incredibly smooth for about a week afterwards. The only setback is that you have to use all of the product at one go, so it’s a bit of a waste for me since I really only need to touch up my roots. Liese has since brought out a cream dye that can be kept for several uses, I might try that out in the future and hope to the heavens that it’s better than the Cielo version (which started fading away after a week and became a hot orange mess).

RICH Pure Luxury Rejuvenating Argan Oil Elixir (S$9.90) | I am so glad this is finished. I really didn’t see any improvement to my hair with this product. It didn’t tame my frizz either unless I used it before and after blowdrying my hair, and even then it wasn’t that great. The smell is much nicer compared to the rosehip oil I’m using now, but if we’re talking about synthetic oils I’d rather buy the Hask hair oil that is much cheaper and showed results.

TEETH

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Keeko Coconut Oil Pulling in Lucky Dip (S$41.29) | I’ll be writing a separate post on this because I have many thoughts and things to say about this fella. The final verdict – most likely will not repurchase due to price

Pearlie White Chor-Rinse Antiseptic Mouth Rinse Plus (S$12.90) | I’ve mentioned how I have a real love-hate relationship with this fella in my last empties (more hate than love) and my feelings about it remain the same. I don’t have to use it anymore since the dentist has given me the clear for my wisdom teeth stitches, and I am definitely not using this again unless forced to.

I’m mostly left with full size products now (masks aside), so it’s going to be tougher for me to use things up for the 2nd half of the year. But I’m glad that I’ve used up a lot of smaller items so that I don’t have to lug all these samples with me when I move next year. I’m hoping to finish up 20% of what is remaining, fingers crossed that I’ll succeed!

Busy busy bees

Hope your Ramadan has been going well and that you are ready for Hari Raya! I haven’t been posting for the past few weeks because my nights have been busy. By the time I actually have time to myself it’s at least 10.30pm and I get sleepy by 10.45 if I’m not going for round 2 😛

I finally have some time so some quick wedding updates because quite a bit has happened this month. I really didn’t expect any progress and was planning to go full steam ahead post-Ramadan but I have no idea what has gotten into the mat (not that I’m complaining). He’s been on the ball and I feel kind of guilty because I’ve been so busy at work that I can’t contribute as much as he has been lately.

Suddenly, a photographer

The first shocker was during the first week of Ramadan when he told me that he wasn’t sure if we should be using his friend as our photographer. I was quite surprised because he was so sure about it since we went ring shopping. His friend takes really nice photos and was offering to do it as a wedding present – that’s a pretty good thing, right? So why are we letting go of the good thing?

Turns out he’s concerned that said friend was going to take an eternity to edit the photos and that we would only get the pictures a year later. So he could still take nice photos at our wedding, that’s no problem at all, but the mat felt that it was safer to get an official photographer. And considering that the mat wants to save every single cent he possibly can for the honeymoon instead of spending it on the wedding, I have deemed this a legitimate concern.

However, due to truly terrible time constraints this month, I’ve only managed to drop an email to one photographer asking for their rates – and unfortunately they were not available on our wedding date. This has led me to being mad paranoid that every good photographer isn’t going to be available but I am also a naturally pessimistic human being so I’m hoping to the heavens that we can find someone.

Money, money, money

Then the second week of Ramadan we started discussing outstanding items and how much more are we going to have to spend on things outside of the package we currently have with The Landmark. Turns out it is quite the list. At the top of my head, I know we gotta get:

1) Photographer + videographer (my mom wants a wedding video. Let the lady have it she only has one daughter)
2) Top-up desserts – The Landmark is only giving some kuih talam, if we want anything else we’ll have to bring it in ourselves
3) Pre-marriage course
4) Tok kadi
5) Wedding rings

And we have to follow up for the:

1) Bridal – do we really want Fatimah Mohsin? Still on the fence cause I’m flip flopping like roti prata. And apparently the mat didn’t think that he was going to get his clothes from them I’m done
2) Decor – got to contact vendor
3) Berkat – got to contact vendor
4) Invites – probably the most urgent one right now since that’s got to be ready by December

I also have to introduce the mat to Spotify. He’s still stuck in the “do a mix tape” era bless his heart.

Doing rough calculation it accumulated to a total of $30k, which is a ridiculous sum that makes me wish we just didn’t give a shit about society and just got married by the beach and gave everyone thank you popcorn for coming. Or maybe thank you Indomee. I really like Indomee.

A legit WTF moment

So after that discussion, the mat chased for the berkat list. We were supposed to get a list of the different berkat The Landmark was offering so we could decide what we were going to take, if we have to top up if necessary, but we haven’t heard anything since March when I asked for more details of the vendors.

The first round he got a company name and a contact person but no list. There was supposed to be a catalogue but there there was nothing in the email, so he chased again. In the meantime I took a look at the company’s website and… I gotta say. I didn’t have high hopes. I was kind of like “…really?” Whatever I saw looked very generic and (dare I say it?) cheap. But I was like never mind, maybe the catalogue would have other things, we can’t assume, blah blah blah.

Then the catalogue arrived.

I have never been so underwhelmed and so unimpressed.

I thought whatever I saw on the company’s website was cheap, but almost everything in the catalogue made the products on the website seem acceptable. You know what, I’m going to say it – I was upset. I was upset that I had waited five damn months to receive a catalogue full of wedding favors that I would never give because if I received them as a guest I would be pissed. I’ve received better berkats in 1999. If I knew that this was what they were offering, I would have just went searching for berkat straight away I wouldn’t have bothered.

To quote my mother, “Nak kasi tapi tak sincere”.

I couldn’t accept any of that so I told the mat that I wasn’t impressed by any of that, and he wasn’t that hyped about it either but he felt that if we didn’t take something it was going to be a waste because it wasn’t going to be replaced with anything else (this was added into the expo package, they made it clear that if we didn’t take the berkat there would be no replacement). Which I understood but nothing was looking good.

He then asked the vendor what else they had and the vendor said that we could choose something from the website for “a small top-up”. And so my mom and I went through the website trying to find something, and finally we all settled on these salt and pepper shakers that were kind of cute (they were like peas in a pod, and I thought at least this represented us: he loves peas, I love stupid puns/idioms(??) like this). Of course, I knew I had to see this with my own two eyes before agreeing because if it was shit quality I wasn’t going to spend my coin on something that I’m settling on.

The next day he told the vendor we were keen on that and how much did we have to top up?

$1.60 per piece. One. Sixty.

That’s not “a small top-up”. My cousin’s berkat is cheaper than that and she’s getting something she actually likes. I told him I didn’t agree to that price and thank god he agreed that it was ridiculous so we’re now looking at other things. He found Pocky that cost $0.85 but my mom thinks Pocky is a little juvenile for adults so the next time I meet him I’m going to have to break that news to him. And that she keeps mentioning tea so let’s just get that and get over it.

I was intending to contact the vendor for the invitations so that I had something to update the makciks during Raya (I am 100% not looking forward to the upcoming interrogation), but again no time this week, so I guess I gotta just say “Oh we’re doing it soon!” and that’s it.

And that’s what’s been happening for the past month! I guess compared to other BTBs this is not even much drama but considering how our wedding prep has been stagnant for a while this is a lot. And there’s more to come when we start meeting vendors after Raya, when we sit down with his brother who’s our unofficial wedding planner, and when I bring my bridesmaids into the fray. I don’t know if I’m excited or dreading this. Maybe a little of both.

Choosing my engagement ring

I was initially hesitant to share my experience choosing an engagement ring because this is not a story where I look at Etsy and see all the pretty rings there and I go look for something similar in store or the mat goes to a jeweler to get it custom-made (that’s what my dad did for my mom’s wedding ring). But it’s also not a story where money is tight and I have to give up my dream ring. It’s a story that I haven’t seen online (at least among Malay BTBs) which made me have my reservations putting it up on the Internet for everyone to see.

It’s been 5 months since I got my ring so I’ve gave it some thought and I think it would benefit some people who end up in a situation like mine.

When the mat and I started seriously talking about getting married, we didn’t see the need to get engaged. To us, an engagement only means “I chope you” but it didn’t change anything else. “I chope you” could have been important if I had a pesky suitor who didn’t know the meaning of no (looking at you, Malaysian dramas that think that a man’s refusal to say no is supposed to be romantic) or if he had some girl throwing herself at him every other day, but it was just the two of us doing our own thing. So the initial agreement between the both of us was each of us gets a wedding ring.

And then the parents got involved and were appalled because their children didn’t even know meminang was a thing and that led to me needing to get an engagement ring. It’s not necessary but his mother wanted me to have a ring. So I figured okay, let’s look for engagement rings.

Personally, I have never seen the appeal of a diamond engagement ring. Growing up no women I knew owned a diamond ring. My grandmother has a plain gold ring. My mother’s ring was inspired by Cartier’s Trinity ring. I saw a lot of gold rings (some with coloured rocks, some without) in the Malay community. To me, the diamond ring was more of a rich Chinese thing, a mat salleh thing.

As I grew older I learnt about blood diamonds, that a diamond’s value drops drastically once you buy it, that the concept of a diamond ring to show your love only got popular in the early 1900s thanks to DeBeers’ iconic slogan for their campaign to get people to buy their diamond rings. And I was like WELL THEN I might as well get a ring with a pretty stone that I actually like.

So that’s what I planned. We set a budget for the ring, I went to Etsy, and after a few weeks I pretty much had the top 5 rings and we were at that point of “to buy on Etsy or to get a jeweler to do something similar?” We were concerned that the ring might not fit me right but I had read online that many people went to get their ring finger measured at a store and then provide the Etsy seller the ring size. He was searching how much it would cost us to resize the ring if shit happens.

He told his mom about our plans and she was weary about ordering the ring online because she was afraid we’d get cheated. After that discussion, she gave him a catalogue. I asked him if she wanted us to buy from that specific store and he had said “No la just a suggestion. We can still look around.”

We decided to consider looking for/doing up a similar ring. We found a company that could customize the ring and my colleagues chipped in about how much we should be paying.

And then one day he tells me that his mother wanted me to specifically have a diamond ring and she was going to pay for it. She had been going around looking at diamond rings and she’d seen some that she wanted me to try on.

I’m going to pause this story to say this: This is legit proof that you cannot rely on your fiancee to interpret what your future MIL is trying to say. Ladies, trust your damn gut. Your mat will not realize what is going on until it slaps him in the face. 

She wanted me to have a diamond ring because she had one and she feels that it’s a must-have. She wanted a ring that would last me decades, like hers, and it had to be of some standard. The older generation still see diamond rings as a big deal, and she had decided that her future daughter-in-law was not going to buy her ring from some shady seller online. No, she was going to buy a ring with a certified diamond that was going to impress everyone who sees it.

Was I upset that I now had to go look at rings that I had no interest in and eventually had to pick one? Yes. I’m not going to lie, I was frustrated. But was it something that I was going to have to swallow and make the best of it? Yes.

Now at this point, I know a lot of people are going to be like “Oh my god what??? Gurl you can’t just accept it it’s something you’re going to wear for the rest of your life!!” And I could have done that but then it would have soured my relations with his mom. And you might disagree but having a decent relationship with your mother is law is important. Unless you are only going to meet her once a year at a family gathering and she doesn’t have any impact on you or your spouse’s life for the other 364 days, you cannot have a screwed up relationship with your MIL. It will affect your relationship with your spouse because it’s his/her mother. She will always have an influence on them.

The second reason why I kowtowed was because she meant well. It might not be what I want, but if it is that important to her to the point that she went to look at rings during her free time and take down the models that she thought were worthy to be put on my finger…fine. It wasn’t as if she asked me to downgrade. In some ways I guess you could say it was an upgrade.

That being said, I am certainly not suggesting to be a pushover. Some things you can kowtow and agree, but some things you might have to take a stand. The mat’s mother was not a happy camper when she found out we wanted to book The Landmark, and my mother was not a happy camper when she heard we wanted to have a wedding dinner, but it was something that the both of us really wanted and they would just have to deal. And they have. You just gotta figure out which fights you want to go all out for.

Eventually we went to two jewellers: Meyson Jewellery and Poh Heng. I got my ring at Meyson for the following reasons:

  1. Price. A diamond at Meyson vs a diamond at Poh Heng had a price difference of about $2.5k. PH’s rep told us that they use only D grade diamonds and was very proud of this, but frankly unless everyone is going to inspect your ring under a magnifying glass the human eye is unable to tell the difference between a D, an E, and an F grade diamond.
  2. The reps at Meyson were very informative. They explained everything, like they had actual charts. A device that lets you look at the serial number of your diamond. The mat asked them about princess cut diamonds and they explained that while pretty, the cut didn’t show off the brilliance of the diamond. You couldn’t shine your ring at someone’s face and blind them.
  3. To me, there was a better selection at Meyson. If you want a massive two carat ring then go ahead to Poh Heng cause that’s where it’s at, but the one I went to had one 0.5 ring and the rest were 0.7 and above. And the rep was pushing me to buy a 1.5 carat ring that I could legit use as a weapon. I didn’t even bother to ask the price.

It came down to two rings that looked almost identical, just that one was a slightly smaller D grade and one was a slightly bigger G grade. The G grade was almost $800 cheaper, and I couldn’t tell the difference between the G and the D. Even the rep was like “To the naked eye there’s no difference”, and joked that a few years down the road I could ask for an upgrade for my anniversary anyway.

I got the G grade diamond. It might not be the D grade that Poh Heng bro boasted about but it’s still pretty damn shiny, it can probably scar someone who tries to attack me, and it even came with a magnifying glass for anyone who wants to inspect it up close.

More importantly, I’ve gotten used to it. Today I’m not thinking about that emerald that I saw on Etsy, or those engagement and wedding ring combos that form a beautiful design when worn together. I’m okay with my ring. Weirdly enough, there is some sort of higher standard when you wear a diamond ring? Someone once asked if I was going to get married at a void deck and another person said “Void deck? Have you seen her ring?” Which is problematic but you know, you..uh… take the backhanded compliment (?) and then educate them about how expensive void deck weddings are these days.

And I guess what I’m saying is that you might not be able to have everything you want during this process, and that’s okay. We deal, we move on.

 

Wedding inspiration no 5 – the BHLDN round

For some strange, strange reason, I suddenly feel the urge to have that dreamy, Pinterest-perfect wedding. Which is dangerous because that way leads to possible excessive spending and the need to have the perfect floral arrangement on every table. Dangerous.

This also translates to the outfit I mean…

…As you can tell there is an aesthetic that I am drawn to.

So here I am suddenly having feelings and guess what? BHLDN appeared on my Instagram feed. One thing led to another and I ended up on BHLDN’s website. It’s still as pretty as I remembered. It also has a lot of things that make me have even more feelings.

Let’s start with the gowns. For the record, I am well aware that I can’t wear all of this, but I am drawn to the elements of the dresses – the colour, the beading, the embroidery etc. The dusty rose / rose gold / millennial pink aesthetic is 100% me right now. If I could convert 3/4 of my wardrobe to those colours I’d be set for life.

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Aurora is very much the classic white dress with a little oomph. I think the beading saves this one from being a snooze, and that’s kind of what I go for on a day-to-day basis.

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But then again I also hear that Fatimah Mohsin lady telling me that the bride can’t be dressed so simply, so the Barton ups the glam factor but still maintains the simplicity that I love. For real, make this long sleeved and it is highly likely that I am sold. The beading at the waist makes me feel so satisfied.

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While I am on the fence about Cecelia’s embellishments, I am on board with the colour and cut.

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This Ramona gown is here solely for the wild tulle skirt. If I was going to get married in a garden this would be the kind of gown I would go for.

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I love love love the length of the Sierra’s train. Not too intense, but still there. I feel like if the train on my dress is too long I’ll step on it and fall. Seeing how I’ve stepped on my own kain before and almost tumbling down it is definitely possible. And the flowy sleeves are so pretty.

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This was the dress that I saw on Instagram that gave me life and opened the gates to this madness. THAT LACE THO?? It is so incredibly pretty and dainty and I want it. However. I’m kind of disappointed with the front of this Sol dress because my first look of it was from that back and it was incredible so I had mad high expectations for it. To me, this is very much a “Take my pics from the back” dress.

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If the Sun Valley was a long dress instead of a short one, I would be absolutely sold. Flowy, muted pink, fair amount of bling, loose sleeves so that no one knows the real size of arms…yes to all.

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BHLDN also has separates for you to purchase to form your own unique wedding outfit (that might really look like a gown unless you squint closer), like this Itala and Delia combo.

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And this Wythe and Amora duo – could you tell that this was a top and a skirt if I didn’t mention it? I love how the colour of the embroidered flowers match the skirt. It’s details like these that pull me in. I also really like the shape that this outfit gives…but am I willing to wear such a silhouette that demands a flat stomach aka I must wear a corset and that means I can’t eat much? I’m not sure tbh. Probably will depend on how great my butt looks.

Who can forget the veil?

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The Ninette veil + Sol gown = perfection from the back. I haven’t seen Malay bridals do this kind of veil though, most of them are just mad long with little to no bling. The shorter ones I’ve seen on Instagram end at a weird length and makes the outfit look incomplete. It could be the way the fabric is cut – a lot of it is straight across instead of the gentle curve this veil has.

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A handpainted long veil screams Pinterest worthy. The Sonnet would be the perfect veil for a laid back wedding aka the wedding that is not mine.

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While I know I want the veil for the nikah, I’m not completely certain on a veil for the walimah, especially since so many stores now have pretty accessories like these winter garden combs.

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Now we talking about the serious stuff.

Shoes, even though they are hidden under the pouf of a skirt, are important. If Singapore’s wind decides to turn up for the wedding uninvited, you bet I’m gonna be exposing some quality footwear (even if it ends up to be my 3 year old Charles and Keith heels. Those heels make my feet look important and make my legs last for days).

The Victoria heels are pretty lace heels from the 1st photo in the mosaic above. These are what I consider aspirational wedding shoes – shoes that theoretically, in my head, are the ideal pair for a bride. They are white and lacy and delicate. They are madly photogenic. They are also not practical for daily use, and if I wore this to people’s houses for Hari Raya everyone will know that these were the heels I got married in because it is such a bridal shoe.

They are also very, very pretty and if I had the money I would buy them.

 

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I have been toying with the idea of wearing wedges instead of heels for the added support, but I might actually be more likely to end up tripping on my gown in wedges. These Candace wedges are glorious though.

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In the interests of my feet, I’ve also been looking at lower heeled shoes like the Kierna. These are pretty bridal, but I can also see myself wearing this again and again to many occasions – going out, to weddings, even to work. However. The mat is pretty damn tall. Like I’ve worn five inch heels next to him and I still gotta look up a little kind of pretty damn tall. And while I am more than ok to be shorter than him, I am not ready to appear midget-like in wedding photos. These are real first-world problems.

So that’s what caught my eye over at BHLDN, and I’m surprised that I wasn’t drawn to the serious bling that I saw in belts and other hair accessories. Shows how your tastes can change so quickly.

 

To kompang or not to kompang?

I’ve always imagined my wedding being either Malay af or Indian af, or mixed Malay/Indian af. Then the mat came round and he didn’t want Indian af because it meant that we also had to go Arab af, so I figured ok, Malay af it is (minus the karaoke. and the gubahan. and the pulut kuning with the red egg. and the – ok just Malay.).

And THEN last week there was a wedding at a nearby void deck and they had the most enthusiastic kompang group I had ever heard in my life. Like there was remix and there was a very passionate cowbell player and I was impressed and my mother had a headache. She told me “How your wedding going to have kompang?? It’s an enclosed area, at least this is open.”

And it struck me that I didn’t even discuss this with the mat. We have no kompang, and our wedding is in March next year. Fabulous.

I’ve read the ex-BTB blogs, I’ve talked to my cousin, I stalked Cozycot before they conveniently shut down the year I got engaged and truly needed a bridal forum so I’m pretty aware that people book kompang like 2 years in advance. They stalk the kompang group FB/Instagram/Snapchat etc. Yet here I was stuck with no kompang.

Of course, I could go without the kompang. That’s obviously possible…but what would I enter my walimah with? I hate Maher Zain, but I also feel a bit weird walking towards the pelamin with an English song (macam kerek u know?). Basically, all my life I’ve attended Malay weddings with kompang, I cannot imagine how else the pengantin will enter the walimah.

So I asked the mat if we were going to have a kompang group and he was like “No, for what? Just use music ah.” And then he went on about no clubbing music (probably afraid that I was inspired by my friend), no Hindustan music (which I probably will have to fight for), just use a mix tape. That conversation went astray so I guess I will have to address it again. Soon. Ish.

My mother had previously suggested kompang recording, because we are cheapskate like that, but fading it away as we sit down on the pelamin is going to be…kind of strange I think. I mean I could enter in a paalki carried by 6 men but that would be awkward for everyone involved including myself because I’d be worried they will drop the paalki. And we can’t enter via motorbike because the venue is on the 5th floor (he was very into that idea when we were looking at Grassroots. My mother still goes on about it.)

Oh my god I cannot believe I’m worried about kompang what has my life become. Okay next time I meet him gotta discuss this. Among like, 5 other things. I should probably write down a list I might just forget by the time I wake up tomorrow morning.

Wedding inspiration no 4

Salam Ramadan everyone! Hope everyone’s first day went well. There’s something about this month that makes me calmer and more productive, and I’m always looking forward to the rain (unless I’m in office and I can’t sleep, of course).

I’ve decided not to go by weeks when it comes to my wedding inspiration posts because oh my god am I terrible at updating or am I terrible at updating? For the past month since I was away, I ran off to Europe with my friends for my final epic single trip before the wedding. I expected to be my regular self (aka give no shits about whatever was happening back in SG), instead I ended up pining for the mat by the end of the trip. Ridiculous. I was done with myself. This is what it means by love makes you stupid.

And then I came back to backlog of work and I’ve finally sort of managed to clear it, just in time for Ramadan. So here I am now, finally updating the blog.

While I was away I was still saving photos on Instagram and looking for inspiration, so here is everything from the past month (which is…quite a bit hee).

 

The Sloth finishes stuff – Q1 2017

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In my first Finish 17 in 2017 post, I mentioned that I wanted to use up my products so that when I moved over to the mat’s place I won’t have to lug a ton of half/quarter/sorta used things with me (also less judgement, seeing how he looks bewildered when I tell him that my dad built a shoe cabinet because we couldn’t fit all our shoes in the store room anymore…the main culprits are my mom and I surprise surprise). What I didn’t mention (I think?) is how freaking slow I use things up unless they are face moisturizer and shampoo. Everything else takes so long it’s great for my bank account, not so great if I hate the product or if I want to try new things.

That’s right, sloth-y in all aspects of my life, including finishing up my makeup and beauty products.

So last year, with this in mind, I bought a lot of deluxe sample sized stuff in sets during the Black Friday sales. I figured that was the best course of action for me because 1) I won’t spend an eternity trying to finish up a body scrub 2) I get to try a variety of products instead of throwing my money at something expensive and then realizing that I hate it or it doesn’t work for my skin.

I need to remind myself to do that in the future – unless I know I want the full size, of course – because I’ve never used up so many items in 3 months in my life. This a post to remind myself that yo, you take so long to use up things stop buying so much stuff. And also for reference in the future if I forgot whether I liked something or not. And also if something really sucks I would like to tell all of you not to waste your money like how I did.

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I’ve made some notes about these 4 fellas in the first update of my 17 in 2017 project. Even if you don’t care for these kind of panning projects, just remember that the Nivea makeup wipes suck and you can definitely buy something better. Maybe even the Guardian brands ones are better I should try those out.

I am also destashing my Revlon lipstick, my Clinique Chubby Stick for eyes and my MyScheming charcoal mask (which I tried one last time on Sunday. It got a lot out on my chin, but only the basic stuff on my nose. The hardcore fellas are still there).

For the rest of the items, I’ll go in order of how I use them everyday.

Dental care

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Pearlie White Chlor-Rinse Antiseptic Mouth Rinse Plus – I got this first bottle when I went to the Paragon dentist for the first time last year to check on my teeth and she said that the wisdom teeth were causing gum infection near my molars since I couldn’t brush so deep to get the minuscule bits of food out. This was to stop the gum infection (that was in the early stages) and I guess it works since my gums have been doing great since then BUT. There is a huge but (hehh). This is a chlorhexidine mouthwash, which stains your teeth. Yes, you read it right. It will stain your teeth. My teeth became insanely yellow the first two weeks I used it and I was so shocked. The last time my teeth were close to that yellow was after I removed my braces. And the longer I used it some of the yellow stains started to turn brown… pretty much like long-term hardcore smoker teeth. Actually I know long-term hardcore smokers with better teeth.

I’m not going to lie, it did affect my confidence because my teeth didn’t look good. But I had to use it because I was going to go through the wisdom teeth extraction and I didn’t want something to screw up because my gums were shit. Using this and the Fluocarli toothpaste pictured was such a bad time, after I switched back to Darlie my teeth looked better. If you Google chlorhexidine mouthwash, you’ll find out that the stains are a side effect that can only be fully removed if you go to the dentist. Which I am only going to in June. I’m finishing up my second one (which I got after the extraction), but I am definitely not going to buy this again unless I really need to. | Rating: 3/5 (because it helped my dental health)

Fluocarli Freeze Cool Toothpaste – This toothpaste claims to immediately re-harden enamel and prolongs protection against plaque acid. I can’t confirm either claim seeing how this did practically nothing for me. It doesn’t have a minty flavour so a plus point if you don’t like the standard minty flavour many toothpastes have, but I feel like you might be better off buying other toothpaste. It doesn’t really help with stains, I didn’t feel like my breath was pretty fresh after brushing… yeah I can’t recommend this. | Rating: 1/5 

Shower products

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Soap & Glory Rich & Foamous Shower & Bath Body Wash – This smelt so good! The smell also lingers on your skin after the shower, and my skin felt nice and soft. I really like it, if I find it in London I’m definitely buying a full size | Rating: 4.5/5

Bloom and Blossom Bath and Shower Gel – This is a line from the UK that prides itself for being all natural, got this in the Lookfantastic box I bought back in November. According to their website, all their products are paraben-free, SLS-free, no synthetic fragrances or colours – making it completely safe for expectant mothers to use their products. I think that’s great for people with super sensitive skin or those who want their products to be as natural as possible. For me, it was unnerving to move from the sweet-smelling Rich & Foamous to this shower gel that literally has no scent. It is the weirdest thing. I can see how some people will absolutely love this but it’s just so strange for me to use a shower gel with no scent. Aside from that, it does a good job as a shower gel. | Rating: 3/5

Soap & Glory Smoothie Star Breakfast Scrub – Another product that smelt so damn good. Even a month after using this up if I open up the tub I can still smell it. This sugar-based scrub really does scrub well, I do feel that my skin is smoother after using it. However, I get a few bumps appearing here and there on my body over the next few days after I use this. Not enough to be alarmed, but I rarely get body acne nowadays that I don’t know if I just haven’t been exfoliating enough and my body is in shock or this product isn’t suitable for me. On the fence about repurchasing because aside from that it was a good scrub – Rating: 3.5/5 

Face

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First Aid Beauty Face Cleanser – I got this after so much researching online because I felt that Cetaphil wasn’t really cleansing my face anymore. I felt like there was still a layer of something after washing and I wanted to try a new cleanser but I had to make sure that wasn’t going to full on break me out. A lot of cleansers I had used before Cetaphil screwed up my skin, and I was using Cetaphil for I think 3-4 years because I was afraid to try something that was going to break me out like crazy again. If I didn’t start to have have that tacky feeling I would probably still be on Cetaphil.

So I went online, checked out the Paula’s Choice website and read a ton of reviews and finally decided to purchase the deluxe size of this face cleanser (part of a set, I was eyeing the other 2 products in it as well). I used this initially with a few other new products and looking back I don’t know why I thought it was a good idea. It screwed up my skin quite a bit, but after I cut down a few things there and there my skin cooled down a lot. Based on the 2+ months of use I got from this cleanser that wasn’t marred by other products, it is a decent cleanser. Sometimes my skin felt a little tight after washing my face but mostly it reminded me a lot of Cetaphil. And if the results are similar to Cetaphil… then I might as well purchase Cetaphil, you know? It’s not bad, but I don’t think this is the cleanser I want to settle on. | Rating: 3/5 

Lotions

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Simple Kind to Skin Hydrating Light Moisturizer – I don’t know what the hell is going on but I have decided that with the exception of the Simple cleansing wipes I just cannot use anything from this brand. I have heard so many people love it and rave about it and it’s supposed to be for sensitive skin but every single foray into this brand has ravaged my skin. I’m not even being dramatic – as a teenager I tried their oil-balancing exfoliating wash? My face broke out so bad like it was having some sort of allergic reaction. Used my friend’s Simple cleanser at a sleepover? Boom! Pimples. Last year I bought the eye makeup remover? Felt like there was an oily layer on my skin. And now, this moisturizer that I bought to get free shipping? Painful.

My skin, while picky af, has definitely calmed down a lot since my teenage days. Pimples are still popping but not as often, I’m less of an oily mess, and since I started using intense hydrating moisturizers the dry patches on my cheeks are gone. So my skin’s doing pretty ok. I figured since I’m now in my mid-20s, a light moisturizer at most would just cause my dry patches to come back and I’ll just whack on the serum on those parts, right?

WRONG. This moisturizer. Broke. Me. Out. Like I was 15 again. It wasn’t just closed comedones (which I still get a lot of), it was full on painful pimples. Appearing everywhere. My cheeks, my forehead, my chin. They were huge and red and here I was frantically trying to cover them up with my foundation because they looked so bad. I was panicking because my skin was doing okay until I stupidly introduced 3 new products almost at the same time – the First Aid Beauty cleanser, this, and the IT Cosmetics Confidence in a Cream at night (that’s a whole other story). I decided to cut the IT cream first, not much difference. I cut this, switching it with my Clinique moisturizer (that wasn’t the same moisturizer that I used previously either so I was really praying that it didn’t make everything worse), and my skin slowly went back to normal. I slowly reintroduced the IT cream into my night-time routine and there were not a lot of problems.

Culprit found. I used whatever was left as my upper body moisturizer. It’s a shitty body moisturizer. Would never repurchase, and will never buy anything from Simple (aside from their wipes) | Rating: 0.5/5

Vaseline Total Moisture Nourishing Lotion – The last of the many backups I’ve had since… 2014? 2015? I used to love this lotion to death back in uni, it worked so well for me. Since I started working and being exposed to air-con for much longer amounts of time, it hasn’t been working as well. Being pretty old could have contributed to it not working too well, maybe in the future I would buy one – and just one! not 5 – to try again. And hopefully it will work, because it’s like $2 for one of these at Guardian it’s so affordable. | Rating: 3/5

Daiso Olive Hand Cream – My friend bought this for me because I use hand cream pretty often at work. It’s okay for a $2 hand cream, I also use it on my legs when they get too dry and itchy in the office. It had a weird scent though, like a fake olive scent. It was just weird. I wouldn’t repurchase because I have many other hand creams I prefer. | Rating: 2/5

Makeup

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Clinique Chubby Stick in Mega Melon – My all time favourite lipstick, the one that I’ve been using regularly since 2013. This is probably the only year that I haven’t started using a new one yet because I’m trying to use up other lip products…but who am I kidding I will break out a new one for Europe, because these things save my dry ass chapped lips. This is like my fourth empty Mega Melon. I freaking love these. | Rating: 5/5

W7 Aye Aye Captain Eyeliner – I am throwing this away because this has become a consistency that’s hard to apply. It’s thick but it’s also watery. It makes no sense. It ends up all over my eyelashes. It flakes if I rub my eyes just the tiniest amount. Most importantly, my eyes were in bad shape after I used this a few times in a week. I had to blink a lot and for about a week I couldn’t open my eyes fully it was kind of scary. I really think it’s gone bad. When it was good, I only used it a couple of times so I can’t really give a rating for this. I remember liking it because it was very black but I also had a lot of time to do my eyeliner when I did use it. So for me it’s not very practical for a day-to-day eyeliner.

Cotton Pads

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Guardian Facial Cotton Pads – This is what I use to remove my makeup, I buy these when they’re on sale (which seems to be pretty often these days). They work fine. | Rating: 4/5

Masks

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I’ve started using masks on Saturdays as a quick pamper time. My skin also feels a lot calmer after most masks. I am aware that a sheet mask a week doesn’t do much, but they are pretty addictive.

The masks that didn’t leave much of an impression were the Mediheal H.D.P. Pore-Stamding Charcoal-Mineral Mask, the Beauty Idea Diary Apple Polyphenols Comprehensive Whitening Mask and the Sephora Job’s Tears Invisilk Mask. Fun to use, nothing bad nothing great.

Beauty Idea Diary Mandelic Acid Skin Renewal Flawless Mask – Y’all this is LEGIT. I expected just another round of ‘plump skin! less redness! for a night!’ sort of results but imagine my shock when MY PORES WERE GONE?? This mask says that it tightens pores and it full on delivers. Yes, by morning time the pores were back but if I can use this before an event and my pores are missing why not? | Rating: 4.5/5

Freeman Avocado and Oatmeal Clay Mask – Pros: This pack gave me 4 masks. That’s like a month’s worth of masks. That’s incredible. That’s super value for money (this is $2, I think). My face did feel cleansed after using this. Cons: When this dries, my face itches like crazy. I thought I was having an allergic reaction when this happened to me the 2nd week I used it and I ran to the sink to wash my face. My skin also does look a little red after using this mask so I dunno, maybe I can’t use it. The itchiness is enough to turn me off. | Rating: 2.5/5

Sephora Shea Lip Mask – I paid $4 for this. My lips felt plumper and softer after this mask, I did sort of look in the mirror and pouted a little if there was a difference… and that’s it. I can’t justify paying $4 for this. Unless you want plumper lips for +/-4 hours. Your lips don’t even stay that soft for a day.| Rating: 1/5 

The Real MVP

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Tiger Balm Plaster – this saves me during my period/PMS when the backache/cramps decide to make an appearance. When the backache/cramps are so bad to the point that I can’t sleep, I slap this on and I can sleep like a baby. Will forever repurchase | Rating: 5.5/5 

Wedding dress inspiration – Week… 3?

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It’s been a while since my last wedding dress inspiration post (whoops!), probably time to update.

I have decided to just come clean with what my dream dress would have been. This is what I wanted back when I was considering tailoring my dress…before I started calculating the budget and sweating profusely, wishing I had 60 pax and not 600.

The first dress that came to my mind was Blake Lively’s Gucci Met Gala gown because I have too high expectations:

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GOD-DESS!!!

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WE ARE UNWORTHY

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EVEN THE BACK IS GREAT / I TOO WANT TO BE THAT FREAKING GORGEOUS UNTIL MY HUSBAND CANNOT TAHAN AND COPS A FEEL IN PUBLIC

Ok so straight off the bat I am very aware that 1) I cannot expose that much boob. I don’t even have those incredible boobs to begin with, so it will not look so good on me. Also, my entire family and the mat and the mat’s family will probably freak out if half my tits are out n about 2) I do not have her body so I might look like I’m wearing some China imitation 3) I want to eat on my wedding day because I paid for the damn food and I certainly cannot wear this dress if I want to eat because I will get a food baby. 4) I need SLEEVES

So that means… practically a whole new dress, amirite. Back to the drawing board.

So after going through websites and websites of gowns, my dream dress would be a combination of these 3:

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Dress 2: Eliza Jane Howell Bridal, Dress 3: Elie Saab Haute Couture S/S 2015

The Frankendress would consist of:

  1. Blake Lively’s dress colour, train and those two fellas on her shoulders (are they also a train?)
  2. The mid-section of Eliza Jane Howell’s dress and the top part of the skirt where the sequins come together at the waist and flare out
  3. Elie Saab’s sleeves and the flowy skirt because my hips are too wide for mermaid skirts. A-Line is the way to go.

Now that I’m looking at it, maybe a bit of the mid-section of Blake’s Gucci dress would look great too, giving the illusion of a smaller waist.

Not that it matters, because I’m not doing a custom dress!

…I gotta say I wish I am tho.

Finish 17 in 2017 update 1

I’ve decided to do quarterly updates for this because the year is too hectic to do monthly updates. Time has zoomed by so quickly and it is already April…which also means audit coming soon *panics*

I started this project with the aim to finish as much as possible because I feel like it’s very wasteful to not use up things that you buy, but I have realised along the way that it really, really sucks to use something that you don’t like at all. A lipstick that bleeds and makes your teeth look yellow is not going to be something that you reach for and is not going to make you happy. I put on makeup to make me look and feel good, so forcing myself to use up something just for the sake of using it up is the complete opposite of why I wear makeup.

With that in mind, I’ve decided that if I don’t like using/wearing something and I have tried different ways of using it and it still doesn’t work for me I will not be using it anymore. Life’s too short, I have things that I actually enjoy using and I’ll just take it as a lesson to actually do some research before buying something and to use it when it’s still good.

For this update, I’ll start off with products I finished, followed by products I’m decluttering (and what I’m replacing them with) and finally the progress of the rest.

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Nivea Makeup Removal Wipes – Last few wipes were barely wet, I wasn’t sure if they were removing all my makeup. Towards the end they smelt kinda funky too. Would not repurchase.

Revlon Colourstay Foundation in 110 Warm Golden – I don’t know if they’ve changed the formulation when they added the pump to the packaging but this was really great. I usually don’t use a lot of it at one go for medium coverage but it is definitely buildable. I wouldn’t encourage keeping this for 3 years though because during the last week of use it was really patchy on my nose and between my eyebrows, something that didn’t happen before. Would repurchase if I wasn’t intending to stop using foundation.

Palmer’s Massage Lotion for Stretch Marks – Didn’t see a difference in my stretch marks but I definitely enjoyed using this. My skin could absorb this surprisingly easily, it kept my skin moisturized and I like the smell. Not sure if I’d repurchase this one specifically, but would definitely try other lotions from the Palmer’s line.

Hask Macadamia Oil Hair Treatment – Did the job, I got 5 uses out of it. However the shampoo did give my dandruff so I’ll try other brands.

Decluttering

My Scheming Blackhead Removing Mask – Probably not a good idea to use this on the regular, I don’t know if it’s just in my mind but I feel alarmed when the pores don’t close after I use the toner. I have a friend who wants this, so I’m passing it on to her. I didn’t purchase this myself but I wouldn’t repurchase.| Replacement – Caudalie Moisturizing Mask and Glycolic Peel Mask – I got this in a set during the Sephora Black Friday Sale last year. I’m trying to make it a point to use products when they’re still good and new, and I’m down to my last sheet mask so I’m excited and curious to try these. Goal: Finish

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Clinique Chubby Stick for Eyes in Ample Amber – This fella dried and kept falling out of its tube when I was using it…and then one day in Feb it fell right out straight on the floor. The floor that I hadn’t swept in a week. Yeah, definitely not going near my eyes after that. Seeing how its $24 and is kind of patchy and creases, would not repurchase. | Replacement – Colourpop Super Shock Cheek in Between The Sheets – This is my first cream (can you call it cream? I guess so) blush and I’m surprised that I enjoy it so much considering how I have combo/oily skin and I stay in a crazy humid country. This blush is still on my cheeks when I come home from work. My only issue is that it’s definitely not the same colour as the product shown on the site. I was expecting something a little more like a peachy-pink shade but on me it is straight up pink. If this was the actual shade on the site it would probably be my favourite blush ever. I’ve thrown this in because I’ve heard that Colourpop products dry up or go bad pretty quickly. Goal: Finish 1/3

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Revlon Super Lustrous Lipstick in 415 Pink in the Afternoon – This was the product that made me decide that I would not force myself to use something I didn’t enjoy. This swatched on my hand is dramatically different than what it looks like on my lips. On my hand it is a pretty rose but on my lips it’s practically neon. It clashes with my skin tone, it’s pretty patchy, moves around throughout the day and makes the lines on my lips super obvious (ridiculous since it’s not a matte lipstick). I think the product isn’t as good as it was before… what I do know is that I definitely didn’t like it when I used it the last 3-4 times. Definitely would not repurchase. | Replacement – Colourpop Lippie Stick in Konichiwa – I had seen this on Morgan of TheBeautyBreakdown and I thought it was a pretty cute pink. Didn’t think about undertones etc so this is a cool pink on me. Not cool to the point that I wouldn’t wear it but seeing how most of my clothes are warm colours I don’t use this very often. Again, putting this into the project because I don’t want it to go bad. Goal: Finish

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And the rest

I’ll only be talking about the products that I used for the past 3 months (yes, some I didn’t even touch. Whoops.)

Revlon Nearly Naked Foundation in 170 Natural Beige
Goal: Finish

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This has the tiniest bit of progress because I was finishing up the other Revlon foundation. And then when I got back from Krabi I was mad tan so for 2 and a half weeks I switched to my Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer that BROKE ME OUT like I was a 14 year old who has to do PE and didn’t wash her face for a week straight. Yes that’s right. I spent a shit ton of money on a tinted moisturizer that is supposedly oil-free and has SPF 20 because I wanted to do some good to my skin and instead I got a forehead full of bumps and screwed up cheeks. But that’s another story. Back to this foundation – it’s always smelled a little weird, but it’s still doing fine. I’m pretty sure I can make a lot of progress in the next 3 months.

Sleek Contouring and Blush Palette 
Goal: Hit pan on bronzer

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I’ve been using the bronzer almost every day that I wear makeup (that is 5-6 times a week) but somehow there’s only a little more dip. If you like the product that’s a real bonus, a real value for money. I like it so I’m glad I’m really getting my money’s worth, but as someone working hard to see that pan it’s challenging. Recently I’ve started using more eye makeup so I’ve been using this as a transition shade in my crease as well.

Silkygirl Perfect Sharp Eyeliner 
Goal: Finish

This is such a frustrating product. I don’t mind if an eyeliner isn’t very black but this makes it look like I don’t know how to apply eyeliner very well. You can actually see the eyeshadow underneath it if you don’t go over it at least 3 times. I’ll try to keep using it but it might get the boot soon.

Vaseline Lip Therapy in Rosy Lips 
Goal: Finish

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This keeps my lips soft at night even when I’m mouth-breathing (thanks, flu) or if I turn on the air-con. I also use it on some Fridays or weekends when I want a fuss-free look. Enjoying it so far and I’m certain I can finish this by the end of the year.

Dior Addict Lipstick in 871 Power
Goal: Finish

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This has been what’s on my lips almost every day at work. I got a little sick of it for a while so I stopped for about a week and now I use it about 3-4 days a week depending on my mood. I’ve gotten into the habit of reapplying too, previously I only applied lipstick in the morning before I leave the house and maybe after work if I’m going out. I really like the formula but wearing this colour almost everyday has taught me that this is more of a ‘once a week’ shade and not an everyday colour for me so if I were to repurchase I’d choose a different shade.

Clinique Chubby Stick Intense in Heftiest Hibiscus 
Initial Goal: Use half | New Goal: Use 1/3 

I’ve used this once in the 3 months, and it was such a good lip day (if I didn’t smile widely ahahah). I was worried that it would transfer everywhere because it’s a moisturizing formula but it didn’t. I now know that I won’t be using this everyday so I’ve switched my goal to be something a little more achievable.

Palmer’s Hair Removal Cream 
Goal: Finish

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I was using this religiously for the first 3 weeks and that’s how I discovered that I definitely cannot use this on my calves regularly. It does the same thing Veet did to me back in 2013 and now I have insanely dry patches that were extremely itchy but they’re better now that I’ve slapped on every lotion I own plus oil. It works fine on the upper leg, armpits and bikini line so I will be using this for those parts…and break out the Nair when my leg hair starts to get out of control.

Rich Argan Oil Elixir  
Goal: Finish

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I cannot wait for this to finish.

Overall thoughts for first quarter

Glad to already have 4 things down. I knew all 4 weren’t going to last that long, but it still feels good to cross those out. I’ve learnt that the lip colour I would wear all the time would be a ‘my lips but better’ type of shade, certainly not something bright and bold or a cooler toned pink.

Here are my goals for the next update:

  1. Use up 1/2 of the remaining Rich Argan Oil Elixir
  2. Use half of Colourpop Konichiwa
  3. Use both Caudalie masks at least once

 

 

Feeling my money flying away

In the last 2 weeks I have attended three weddings, which is definitely a new record seeing how sometimes I don’t attend three weddings in a year. They were three vastly different weddings – the first one was a wedding that confused me greatly because I was surrounded by tudung makciks but the music was clubbing music, the second was a traditional church wedding, the third was a non-traditional church wedding that involved a Beyonce dance routine. So I’ve had some good food and I’ve reunited with some friends but it also means that I no longer have a precious $150 with me.

$150 could have bought me a month’s worth of lunches argh

The mat and I have been cutting down our spending for dates. We now have a $20 budget for meals, we haven’t watched a movie in theatres in months and date suggestions are now met with “Ok, but is it free tho/how much is it?”.

For myself, I haven’t bought clothes since… December?? If we don’t count the Uniqlo jumpsuit. That’s a pretty long time for me. I actually didn’t buy anything during wt+’s anniversary sale last week. Me, the all-time fan of Dorothy Perkins and Warehouse. Miracle.

I have also been holding back on the makeup/skincare/beauty front, knowing that I am going to go apeshit in Europe. I did break my no-buy yesterday though because I saw the animal face sheet masks at BHG. I’ve wanted to try one for so long just to see how ridiculous I look but $4.90 is an absurd price for a sheet mask that doesn’t promise anything incredible. With the 20% off it isn’t a big discount but at least it’s not almost $5.

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I feel like I look like Chewbacca instead of a fox?? But this mask makes me look like I’m pouting even though I’m not and my cheekbones are on point. Stunning. Worth the $3.92 I paid.

(If you’re interested in what good it did to my skin…. well, my pores were smaller and my forehead wrinkles were a little less prominent…for the night. Most sheet mask results are temporary unless you use them on a regular basis.)

Also I had to buy a new shampoo because my current shampoo is either too harsh or is doing jackshit because I now have dandruff. After 26 years of my life being dandruff free I saw huge flakes on my hair in the office bathroom and freaked the hell out when I found more hiding underneath the layers. I’ve been using my brother’s Clear shampoo the last two times I’ve shampooed and the dandruff situation has improved a lot but I find that my hair is becoming very frizzy even with the conditioner and the hair oil, so I figured I should buy new shampoo before the frizz gets worse. I also need to figure out what to do with the remaining half bottle of shampoo that I have because I’m not to keen on reviving the dandruff.

I have actually been very tempted by some makeup and sheet masks (they are my new favourite shiny thing) but I have been going strong and not purchased anything. Not even at the Guardian 3 for 2 sale where I walked around for a whole hour and left with pads. I can only hope that this determination lasts.